Wednesday, April 21, 2010

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

It has been an interesting past week for us in the Harris household. It started with me going to YW camp to do crafts with all the girls. That went great and I even was proud of all my walking and lifting to stay in shape during pregnancy.

Then I had a doctor's appointment on Friday that did not go quite as planned. The good: We are indeed having a baby girl (as was confirmed multiple times for us over the weekend), she is healthy and the right size for the 20 week point, all looks good on that front. The bad: the tech notices that baby girls hand is waving around way lower than it should be in my cervix. The ugly: The doctor comes in and confirms that I have an incompetent cervix (a term Chris keeps laughing at. Yes, my cervix is incompetent, honey.) I am told to go straight to the hospital where there will be a doctor waiting to further examine me and decide how bad it is.

The good: My sister had the same thing so I called her right away for some advice and explanations. The bad: The doctor says the membranes that line the cervix and help keep the baby in have slid all the way down to the opening of the cervix and if I had let it go for probably even a few more days, the membranes would have slid out or burst and I would have gone into labor. More good: they caught this in time, baby girl is still in my belly, they say I am a good candidate for a cerclage (stitches to close the top of my cervix and hold the baby in). The ugly: I get to stay in the hospital tilted backwards to let the membranes slide back, I get to experience a spinal (like an epidural but with complete numbing power), I get to be stitched up and put on complete bed rest for at least a week until I have a check up on Friday and they decide how i'm doing.

The good: Everything went really well, I have amazing family members and friends who have been taking great care of me, since they caught this in time I may have some limited mobility soon. The bad, let's face it, and the ugly: My poor students have a sub all week and maybe longer, in fact maybe for the rest of the year, I probably won't be able to take my trip to California this summer like planned, I can no longer try to be active to keep off as much of the oncoming baby weight as possible, I cannot follow through on the big plans I had to organize, clean, and put back together my house including the nursery.

Looking on the bright side: I cannot describe how grateful Chris and I are that we still have this baby girl growing healthy and strong and for the technology around us that saved her. I am forever grateful for a husband who stayed with me the whole time in the hospital and was positive and attentive and very loving. I have family who has offered to jump on a plane to come help me at any time. Especially my mom who has already volunteered herself to organize and paint my nursery and anything else in my house. And for a loving Heavenly Father who answered all our desperate prayers. I will take all the bad and the ugly to meet this girl in late summer. Let's hope this is all the drama she has to offer for a while.

13 comments:

Kira said...

Wow, Danielle. This is the first I have heard of this. Your post made me cry (seriously, it did). I am so sorry and so happy for you all at the same time. Here are some thoughts-
Fast food-- embrace the baby weight and eat all you want before you have to start losing it.

Cheesy "chick lit"- You have a fantastic excuse to sit around and read.

Online shopping-- Need I say more?

Susan R said...

Add me to the list Dano. I'm happy to come help you do whatever you want or need done.
Best of luck to you.

JennyLeighP said...

I wish I could be of help to ya but I'm sure all those girls in FL have ya covered. I'm so happy they caught this in time and your little girl is ok! Yes I agree with Kira embrace the baby weight...its so much better than stressing about it! I hope everything continues to go ok

Kirs:) said...

I am going to KILL our husbands!!! Every time the guys have talked I have asked how you are doing and have heard nothing! You know I am here for you!!! Please let me know what I can do to help out!

I am so grateful the Lord is hearing your prayers and I can not wait to hold that beautiful little princess this September:):)

And listen to Kira, she is spot on:):):)

Kelli said...

So sorry to hear about your situation! But so glad that they caught everything in time! Know that your in our thoughts and prayers!

KatieB said...

i kept calling aud for updates. so glad they caught it in time! hang in there. try to enjoy this bed rest, at least you wont' have a toddler running around that you have to keep tabs on. have aud send you the gilmore girls dvds to keep you busy.

Mom C. said...

Dano~
Who knew this kinda thing ran in families. You will be in our prayers. Hang in there! The Rose women are strong...if Audra can do it I'm sure you can too. BTW if you want dvd's to keep you busy I have 24 seasons 1-5. Action packed and very addicting. LOL. I would gladly send them if you are interested. Aunt Nila

Unknown said...

Wow Danielle, so glad to hear both of you are doing well now! Wishing you all the best for a healthy pregnancy and healthy, beautiful baby girl!

Lisa McCann

Jen and Bryan said...

I'm glad they're some good. It will all be SO worth it when they place that little crying angel in your arms. Every tilt, every stitch, every pound of weight you'll be cursing for months to come... completely and utterly worth it. I'm SO excited for you and Christopher! You'll be such awesome parents!!

Elise said...

What a blessing that they caught this all in time! I love how positive you are. It's like nothing can bring you down. Sorry you have to make sub plans. Yuck. I hate those. Especially at the end of the school year after testing and stuff. I'm always scrounging to find fun things to keep the kids motivated while still learning things. You're in our thoughts and prayers!!!

Clay & Sara said...

I am so glad you and that baby are okay! Prayers are with you!

Sarah said...

Stay strong and stay safe.

Greg and Betsy Rose said...

Danielle, sorry you and Chris and baby girl had to experience this but I am so happy for its outcome. Stay strong and enjoy being pampered because at the end of the summer, you won't get that again.